The following suggestions are being made as a general approach to raising a girl to have a happy life in order to be successful. By happy I mean a life without distress, where she is respected for the values she embodies, and who can bond to a man who enjoys her company.
Where women define a successful life as involving a career as well as a family, a "have it all" mentality, the majority of such women are stressed out, believe in superficial concepts like feminism, diversity, multiculturalism, materialism etc. to avoid the responsibility of being a wife and a mother, honored pursuits that are being denegrated in every culture. Such women tend to virtue signal being independent and equal to men. If one looks at Western culture, now creeping into Eastern cultures, the majority of such women are divorced, single and childless, or single and trying to raise children in her spare time, or paying for strangers to raise them, and presenting a facade of happiness. Even when married, there are lot of conflicts and households do not run smoothly.
* The majority of the child psychological development occurs before the age of 7, so a girl can be raised freely. This gives her independent thinking, as she learns about her emotions and mental capabilities, and she learns her place within her surroundings.
* Do not pamper a girl just because she is beautiful or weak. Such girls tend to become immature and hide behind her parents or others to avoid the responsibilities of her actions. It is important for her to know she is weak in order to work to become stronger, and that gives her mentally preparation and her personality adjusts accordingly. Especially when she picks fights with boys she needs to learn that she is weaker and cannot fight back. Lot of parents meddle in these learning process by favoring girls which basically spoils her personality giving impression that there will be always someone to protect her.
* Around age 12, make sure that she starts helping her mother in the kitchen with cooking, cleaning, washing, etc. This not only helps her be good at things which can be later useful in marriage but also brings tremendous value as a wife to a man once she becomes adult. And by the 10th standard she should be very good at these household responsibilities.
* Monitor wherever she goes, and see that she does not mingle with boys as much as possible. Generally school or college tours are okay, however commingling with boys needs to be avoided as long as there are parents involved. If there are girls' nights out, make sure the parents know about it and such meetings should be done only at one's house.
* A girl's virginity is far more important than anything else, so make sure that remains intact. A self-controlled woman is very valuable for man as it shows she is not morally deficient, has self-discipline and is rational. Once a woman loses her virginity her peer bonding decreases greatly and this is one of the reasons such behaviors were observed by our ancestors . Again if one notices the pattern of promiscuous women, they always claim that they could not marry a previous boyfriend because something is wrong with that man. The majority of such woman are blind to their own problems and blame them on others. Because they are easily give away sex, over time men lose trust, and see them as only candidates for casual relationships.
* Make sure her personality is meek, submissive, feminine, cheerful, happy. Also do not expose her to idiotic ideologies like feminism, multiculturalism, diversity without proper social and historical context, etc. which brainwashes girls into thinking that these are desirable pursuits. If her schools or education system teaches this to them take steps to avoid such schools. These are poisonous concepts for impressionable young minds, which develop an abrasive, combative, masculine nature in girls.
* Her career is important, to an extent, however she has to be aware that family comes first before work. If the husband wants her to quit she should not hesitate. A career for a wife in general leads to a lot of conflicts in a marriage. Smart women get married at young age, raise kids to an age of 7 and then choose careers. That way they are not overwhelmed by the stress of a career while simultaneously raising kids, and she will have the free the needs to follow a career.
* Make sure that she has a healthy diet and do not eat junk food or take out food instead of cooking her own . Lazy and careless women behave in such a way and mostly because parents have taught them that. So do not allow that to be her fate.
* Make sure she exercises and stays physically fit. A fit woman commands a quality man. Also children learns alot from the mother as they spend most of their time with her. A unhealthy/fat mother leads to unhealthy children.
* Hobbies are important for a woman, make them learn one or two as it will help her concentrate on real things instead of merely seeking attention as majority of women does this.
* No social media - A majority of social media girls are attention whores and nothing else. If at all she has social media, monitor that dialog. See for instance that it speaks of her hobbies rather than her physicality or beauty.
* Arrange for marriage as soon as possible. A woman's value comes from her youth, fertility, beauty and personality. Late marriage leads her to be promiscuous and hence she cannot attract a valuable man. Also in eastern cultures it causes lot of problems for parents.
* Do not waste time in finding the right partner in the name of Love; its a meaningless word used by promiscuous women. If love were the proper focus for a successful marriage, you wouldn't have such a high divorce rate in western culture. As someone famously said "People who married for practical reasons are lot more happier than who married for Love"
* There are of course exceptions like Madam Curie, Shakuntala devi, Ayn Rand, etc. who have exceptional skills. However, such cases do not even make up one tenth of one percent, so do not take pride in raising such a woman. Also these exceptional women's talents were pretty much realized in early age and could be focused accordingly.
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